Today happens to the 14th of February, the Valentine’s Day, also popularly known as the day of love. I do not believe in Valentine, but the craze of our generation demands that I do not ignore it. In my opinion, I think this is the day in all calendar year that humankind engages in all manner of sexual immorality in the excuse of “Valentine”. This is probably one of the most successful schemes of the enemy to pull men to sin with a good excuse. It is my sad observation that the Christian student/youth for that matter has not escaped from this trap!
When I was in Campus, the University would put together a Valentine’s Day bash for the student fraternity at the swimming pool. You only needed to have money to buy beer because the entrance was free. In the morning of 15th as we went for morning devotion whose venue was only a few meters away from the swimming pool, we would be met by massive scatter of beer bottles, full and broken from fights that were there in the night. Packs of used and unused condoms which the university would supply free of charge to the students! It was and I believe remains an ugly site for those of us who were born again.
Why is sexual purity important?
Your being able to remain pure is one of the most effective witnessing tools to your non-believing friends wherever you are especially in college. When your roommate is cohabiting with his girlfriend, when he dumps one and picks up another and when they sleep around without care, your conduct in a romantic relationship will be a strong witness. When you get into a relationship for the right reasons and walk in purity until your wedding day, the message will speak loudly. Has your relationship prompted unbelievers to ask “How do you do that?” Helen Roseveare, a missionary surgeon in Congo said that ‘There must be nothing, absolutely nothing, in my daily conduct that copied by another could lead that one into unholiness” How do you live as a Christian? Is your conduct holy?
The rise of dysfunctional homes in our country and world over is worrying. Many of us come from homes where we were hurt by one thing or another. You rarely come across someone who has a godly heritage from home. So it is very important that we take responsibility for breaking the chain of pain, and lay foundations for the generations that will come after us. In order to end this kind of hurtfulness, we must be deliberate in starting a new generation that fears and obeys God. This does not happen if we do not treasure sexual purity and preserve ourselves for the right time. Before you commit any form of sexual sin, be it pornography, masturbation ask yourself how that will affect your future family. You do not just want to start a family without careful thought as Paul warns that marriage should not be entered without careful consideration. Malachi 2:11, God desires godly offspring. This is only possible and beautiful in the context of marriage.
The blessing of Abraham was to be passed on through families. When God spoke to Abraham in Genesis 12:1-3, He told him that He would bless him and through him ALL the families of the earth would be blessed. We know that the blessing of Abraham is the blessing of salvation further confirmed in the New Testament. When you appreciate this truth, you will be careful to prepare yourself and commit to God that your family will not fail in the Great Commission. You enter into marriage knowing that it is not just for love, but God is seriously counting on you as He reconciles the world to Himself. This, if nothing else should motivate you to remain pure because many generations are counting on your faithfulness.
The marriage relationship is the only relationship that mirrors Christ relationship with the church. Many times in scripture, we hear God referring to the church as His bride. We, the church, are the bride of Christ. The husband in Ephesians 5:22-33 is commanded to love his wife as Christ loves the church, and likewise the wife is to submit to her husband just as the Church submits to the Lord. If the marriage relationships of our time and generation do not reflect this kind of love and submission, we are at risk of confusing our children and the world at large about this very profound mystery. The commitment to remain in marriage begins before you ever get to the altar and take your vows. How you conduct yourself with respect to sexual purity in your relationship is therefore a communication of how Christ treats his church. Christ is preparing His bride-the church for the wedding of the Lamb, will your bride be without blemish and spot and wrinkle on that wedding day because you kept her pure, or will you be ashamed by how you both will be on that day because you violated all your boundaries? This way you will either represent the Kingdom of God as it should be or misrepresent it.
So on this Valentine’s Day, your best gift to your fiancé/fiancée and future family is the gift of purity. Put your hands in your pocket and tell him/her how much you love them that you cannot touch them before that wedding day. Remind them that you want them to be blameless and without blemish or spot on that great day. Remind them that you have a responsibility to keep them pure and you are not just about to fail. May Grace abound to you!
Happy Purity Day!